this will not be bitter, this will not be bitter, this will not be bitter

Hi All! Good Sunday afternoon.

Going through a divorce is something nobody can prepare themselves for. Its awful and the worst feeling in the world and it doesn't go away. Well, maybe I should re-word that, I think just one person feels this way. The other is driving to that light at the end of the tunnel. The divorcee however isn't in a car, to be able to drive through a tunnel, much less - see any light whatsoever.

I was googling some quotes that pertained to my situation. I found some I liked so I thought I would put them in here and write my thoughts...


“If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, you'll be married to a man who cheats on his wife.”
AMEN. Wouldn't we all be so lucky to find our soulmate in the workplace? Just hope he doesn't have a wife and kids at home. But, I guess to some people that doesn't really matter.

“Getting divorced just because you don't love a women is almost as silly as getting married just because you do.”
Absolutely. Marriage is about not only love, but sharing your true compassion, being truthful and completely open and honest with another person. Like a good friend told me,  Life is not about doing whatever makes you happy - Its about being there for others and in turn you will be happy. 


“A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there's less of you”
Couldn't agree more. I've come to terms that i will be divorced. Its nothing I wanted or planned for, but its happening. However - A big part of me is gone. I've been told I'll be better off, and I hope so. 


"The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes"
Down the road, Im sure its going to be a very long road - maybe a highway or a river, but whenever I am in a new relationship this will be my motto. I've thought long and hard about how I am going to be able to continue with my life and new relationships. I told my friends, I just don't know how I will ever be able to invest myself fully and not fear the person will betray me and stop loving me one day. They gave me great advice. They said that because they know me and who I am that won't happen. They said I will be able to be happy and in love again. Im really hoping this happens... The above quote explains how in order to be rewarded and fulfilled you have to fully give yourself and heart. It takes 2 people to make a marriage work, but only 1 is needed to make it fail. 


During my (I would say our, but not sure we were both paying attention) pre-marital counseling I was told, Marriage is not 50/50, its 100 & 100. That has stuck with me since I heard it and I will continue to keep that in my head. I think that could be applied to any situation. Friendships, Jobs, Parenting. If both people in a relationship of any kind do not give there all its bound to fail.

Thats all for now! Mommy duty calls - I smell a diaper that needs attention to, laundry needs to be washed and dinner needs to be made.

xoxo
ashley